6.27.2019

30513 Memories: Summer


Few things compare to bare feet on red Georgia clay. After a hard year of book learning with some life learning tossed in for good measure, summer came along at just the right time back in the day. And for my money, summers there were the best, back in that place with the 30513 zip code.

Each summer when I was a child, I would spend plenty of time outdoors. When I was a kid, it represented freedom, at least until it was time to return to school at summer's end. It became a time to explore. Butterflies danced through the air. Sweat bees took turns dive-bombing my ears. Crickets and grasshoppers and June bugs and an occasional praying mantis provided wonder and amusement. I would venture into the woods through briar patches and over fallen trees into places which felt undiscovered. While I now realize I probably should have worn shoes, I also understand I would not have ever known the feeling of my feet pressing against the dirt of the earth.

Summer was also a time when family used the soil of the earth to provide food. Almost everyone we knew grew a garden then. My family was no different. We would grow green beans, potatoes, corn, squash, okra, cucumbers, maybe tomatoes or even watermelons. If the weather was good, and the bugs could be held at bay, there would be enough food grown to store away some for the winter. Usually there was enough to not only save some for colder days but enough to share then and there with neighbors. Neighbors would share their bounty with us, too. Although, it wasn’t a favorite chore then, I can’t help but think back on times sitting on a family member’s porch stringing then snapping green beans. If you listened you could learn a lot about life, and maybe, a bit about your people during those times. Mostly though, it made you appreciate hard work, even when it can be tedious and not so glamorous.

As I grew older, other things became important during summer. We would often camp or head over to Fightingtown Creek. We would ride inner tubes in the fairly calm white water keeping an eye out for snakes along the bank or in the rocks. We might go fishing. We might just ride through the mountains.

It was so much more though.

It was letting a pinch of tobacco ease the sting from a bee. It was red Kool-Aid in an old milk jug pulled fresh from the freezer. It was a family reunion with fried chicken, potato salad, banana pudding, sweet tea and a never-ending game of horseshoes. It was taking turns winding the crank to churn out homemade ice cream. It was fresh peaches, fuzz and all, watermelon with a dash of salt, and tomato sandwiches covered over with mayonaisse and black pepper. It was the slamming of a screen door behind you as you ran outside because it was cooler in the yard than it was inside the house. It was a wet, sticky mess of heat that knew little mercy. It was enough dust that when the wind blew you held your hands above your eyes then felt the dust land on your sweaty face painting a tan around your eyes, nose and mouth. It was lightning bugs in glass jars with tiny slits jabbed into the jar lid with that pocket knife you carried everywhere. It was praying for rain so the crops didn’t dry up and die on the vine. It was praying the storm would blow over quickly so it didn’t knock down what had been planted. It was the curse of kudzu and poison ivy but the saving grace of Vacation Bible School and Decoration Day and Homecoming.

Growing up, those were the summers I knew.

I’ve been gone from a whole summer there a long time. When I think back on those summers though, it's all blues and greens now. Once, when I came home from college for the summer, I noticed how green things were that year. Trees seemed to have an abundance of leaves. The grass grew so tall it seemed to fall all over itself. The faded denim-blue sky though seemed still as if it were painted on a faraway canvas. Looking back, I like to think those few moments were made just for me so I could snapshot them into memory to bring out when I might want to remember the way things were. Now in the summer, whether I am there or somewhere else, I tend to look for those colors. When I find them I can almost feel my feet on the cold, red Georgia clay again. It feels like summer did then, and the memories of what summer was like through all those years shine down on me like the golden beams of a July sunrise, and, I am home again.

30513 Memories: Summer playlist:
Willie Nelson "Blue Skies"
Pure Prairie League "Still Right Here In My Heart"
Peaches and Herb "Reunited"
Michael Murphey "Wildfire"
Steve Martin "King Tut"
Hall & Oates "You Make My Dreams"
Jefferson Starship "No Way Out"
Waylon Jennings "Luckenback, Texas"
The Larsen-Feiten Band "Who'll Be The Fool Tonight"
Joe Walsh "All Night Long"
Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers "Let Me Up (I've Had Enough)"

6.13.2019

A Father and A Son


Father’s Day, 2019, or, really, any year.

A father and a son. It’s complicated.

What have you done to the mirror?
What have you done to the floor?
Can't I go nowhere without you?
Can't I leave you alone any more?

Same world/Different planets.

I know you don't think much of me
But someday you'll understand
Wait'll you learn how to talk baby
I'll show you how smart I am

If you would only listen/Why listen to someone who doesn’t want to understand?

A quitter never wins
A winner never quits
When the going gets tough
The tough get going

Son, listen to me/Okay, I’m watching.

Maybe you don't know how to walk baby
Maybe you can't talk none either
Maybe you never will, baby
But I'll always love you
I'll always love you

I hear you, Dad, and I know. I’ve always known. I have never not known.

Randy Newman's Memo To My Son

5.30.2019

Why The Last Day of May Matters


Every year this day comes. It seems now to be sandwiched into so many other things that it can be overlooked. There’s work stuff. There’s school stuff. There’s summer plans to consider. Some years other big events happen in the weeks and months ahead. Add to all that the fact that this specific date falls close or right on a holiday every year, a holiday that should be considered soberly but a holiday many use as a kick start to summer. When all that happens, this one day of celebration can get lost in the shuffle. It’s never intended to be lost or forgotten.

While she probably wouldn’t like it if the day were totally forgotten or ignored, I know she doesn’t care if it isn’t the top headline of the day. So, we’ll aim for somewhere in between.

Jennifer’s birthday is the last day of May. It’s there in the middle of all that chaos of spring and summer and work and vacations and holidays and all that other stuff. Since she is sort of low-key, you can see how some of these things can hide this special event.

If you know her, you know what a smart, kind, Godly, loving woman and mother she is. You may know her as a caring relative or a devoted friend or conscientious co-worker. I don’t have to sell you on what makes her so special.

Some of you may know me but don’t know her. Trust me when I say she is a good one. For all my bumps, bangs, bruises, folly, flubs and foolishness, she makes me better with her than I would ever hope to be without her. For that alone, I am grateful. The world I come in contact daily should also be grateful.

So, a few years ago (you don’t think I would give her age away, do you?), her mom and dad welcomed her into this world. Her journey started then. Right around this time every year, we celebrate that day. We give her gifts. We wish her many more happy birthdays.

Those of us who know her though are the ones who are showered with the gift of knowing and loving her. I am especially blessed she chose to spend her life with me.

Happy birthday, Jennifer! Hannah and I love you so very much!