2.18.2021

Road Trip: The Yellow Rose

In this space, I have written about several road trips I have taken over the years. Once or twice I have taken a side trip in these stories. This is another side trip.

A few years after I learned to drive, my parents helped me buy a car. It was an early 1970s Road Runner. Sorry, I can’t recall the model year although I want to say it was 1973. The car had bucket seats and an eight-track player. My brother, who made a living using Bondo, sandpaper, water and paint to become an excellent paint and body man, used his talent to transform the car from Tootsie lollipop brown with a black stripe to black with a white stripe. Somewhere I have a photograph of the finished product.

I did not keep the car for long. You see there was a drinking problem. The car liked to drink oil and gas. When I went away to college, I did not drive it there so it sat for several months. In my first summer home, I sold the car and bought a late 1970s Datsun car. It was canary yellow with a black stripe. It was a much more sensible option for me. College was a seven-hour trip one way so the car with the better gas mileage seemed to be a no-brainer.

During my college years, that yellow car, sometimes referred to as the Yellow Rose, was my primary means of getting from Point A to Point B. While the car was reliable much of the time, it had its moments of frustrating unreliability. One trip back to college, it sputtered while leaving a rest area. The car ran okay as long as I kept my foot on the gas. When we stopped for lunch, I told a friend who was driving his Chevy Luv truck to not leave me since my car was sputtering at times. My friend did as I asked. Somehow, I made it safely through Nashville. A few hours later, I had to exit the interstate. At the end of the ramp, I would have to stop for traffic. I was not sure I could come to a complete stop without the car quitting. So, I closed one eye, did not stop, and made the left turn safely. I got in the car the next day and it ran like a top.


There were other such incidents. She sputtered and quit under a red light on a Saturday night in Jackson. That incident involved a tow truck and a ride back to campus in the back of a pick-up on a cold autumn night. Another time I parked in a restricted campus parking lot to pick up my friend, Roger. In my haste to not get a ticket, I backed directly into a concrete barrier centering the trunk. For years after this, every time Roger rode with me, he looked at me, grinned then held his neck.

Most of my friends had such cars during college. Ligon had a Studebaker. Gordo had a huge blue Dodge we called the Tank. I joked once that car was so big if you were in the backseat and needed to talk to someone in the front seat you had to place a long-distance phone call. Not to be outdone, Skip owned a huge beige car we referred to as the Banana Boat. Hester had the Im-puh-luh. Young had a Cadillac. Others had Monte Carlos, Pintos, Volvos, Suburus, K-Cars, and pick-up trucks. Most of these vehicles seemed to be held together with duct tape, spit, chewing gum, and a prayer. Still, they did what they had to do when we needed them.

I traveled many miles in that yellow car, most of them during my college years. Less than a year after my graduation, it stalled on the side of the road about an hour away from my parents' home. I called my Dad and he called a longtime family friend with a tow truck who hauled that old yellow car home. We worked on it and got it running again. I sold it. For a time I lived in my hometown, then later not too far away. It became commonplace for me to see that car around town.

One day I pulled into a gas station in my hometown. I looked at the pump in front of me, and there she was. I knew it was her. She still had an old college parking sticker attached to the back bumper. I could not resist. I walked over to the driver. I told him I once owned the car he was driving. I asked him how it was working for him. He replied he had never had a lick of trouble from the car. At that moment, I relived moments when I stood on the side of the road because the car quit. I had never wanted to kick that car more than I did at that moment. I wished him well and went on my way.

There were a lot of road trips in that old yellow car, Jackson, Nashville, home, jaunts around west Tennessee, and a few times down nearby backroads in an attempt to just clear my mind. There is a Thom Schulyer song popularized by Dan Seals called “My Old Yellow Car”. While every line in that song doesn’t fit my experience I must admit when I hear the song these lines somehow speak to me:
“There was no road too winding and nowhere too far
With two bucks of gas and my old yellow car.
Somewhere in a pile of rubber and steel
There’s a rusty old shell of an automobile
And if engines could run on desire alone
That old yellow car would be driving me home.”

Playlist for "Road Trip: The Yellow Rose"
Dan Seals "My Old Yellow Car"
Emmylou Harris "White Line"
The Cars "Drive"
Gary Numan "Cars"
Steve Earle "Copperhead Road"
Lone Justice "Ways To Be Wicked"
Creedence Clearwater Revival "Keep On Chooglin'"
Ronnie Milsap "She Loves My Car"
Jason and the Scorchers "Absolutely Sweet Marie"
Georgia Satellites "Keep Your Hands To Yourself"
Don Henley "The Boys of Summer"
John Hiatt "Riding With The King"

2.04.2021

That Song Is Driving Me Crazy

As parents of a young child, Jennifer and I have experienced our fair share of songs from television shows and movies. We have "Set It All Free". We put that sunshine in our pockets so that we "Can't Stop the Feeling." Of course, we also "Let It Go." Times and moments, pardon the pin, frozen in time. Sometimes, we have seen these movies and shows so many times that the songs seem to play in an endless loop in our brains.

And, that is the true downside to all this. These songs are so catchy. These tunes are such delicious ear candy that one cannot simply hear them once then forget them. Risk devoting time coupled with the least bit of energy and soon you will find the song playing over and over in your head.

Now and then though, you win one.

I drove Hannah to school recently. During the ride, she and I mostly talked. This was great as I love hearing her carry a conversation. As we drew nearer to school, the conversation grew quieter. Maybe Hannah sensed we were near the school. Maybe we had exhausted what we had to say.

In the background, I had on the car radio. At any given time, that radio could be set to any type of station. Mostly though, the radio is set to some type of music from back in my day. It could the "hits of the 70s, 80s and 90s". It could be classic rock. Some days it is classic country.

This particular morning, the station was a classic country music station. Softly, in the background, the early 1980s hit, 
"You're The Reason God Made Oklahoma." was playing. As the silence continued, I slowly increased the volume of the radio.

Looking in the rearview mirror, I could see Hannah eyeing me
realizing the music was becoming louder. Then, at just the right moment I began singing along with the song. Glancing back in the mirror, I could see Hannah laughing.

As the song continued to play, Hannah began singing along with the radio. We laughed as we finished the song. As the song ended, I turned down the radio. From the backseat, Hannah spoke up, "Great, now that song will be in my head the rest of the day."

Her spoken realization made me laugh. For all the Disney songs that have infiltrated my brain during the last decade I felt like I had won one for all the mom and dads who find themselves during some quiet moment mindlessly humming something from "Beauty and the Beast", "Toy Story" or "The Lion King". For all of you who have endured such moments, "You're Welcome." Sorry, I know, that's from "Moana".

1.21.2021

A Little Understanding

There are a lot of things that I do not understand. At eye-level, there are mathematical problems and scientific concerns, that, well, lose me rather quickly. From a wide, big picture look, I shake my head how we, as a society, allow politicians, the media, social media, and celebrities so much influence on our lives, even down to how we perceive people we do not agree with on issues. I do not understand why some do not value the miracle of new life. I do not understand why some do not value the years those who are older have lived.

There are plenty of other things I could add to such a list. As you read this, you probably have a shortlist of things that have popped into your head. I know if I had the time and the inclination I could do something about my struggles with math and science. My deficiencies with them are all on me. The bigger ticket items, well, that is more challenging, isn’t it?

Then, there are these other things that shuffle my papers in the wrong way. You know, I just don’t get the hysteria over pumpkin spice. Some people like to decorate their homes for Christmas sometime after Labor Day, while others like to enjoy the day-to-day journey between September and December.

Long before any virus called for us to hibernate, stunt the curve, put on a mask, and wring, er, wash our hands endlessly, social distancing was something practiced already in certain places. Take the men’s public restrooms for instance.

No, not every restroom is the same. Some are small, others quite large. Most have urinals and toilets. The large ones are great. You can find a urinal away from others in use and take care of business. Even in smaller ones, sometimes you will wait your turn so that you are not closing in on someone else’s private space. Still, I have been in large restrooms, with numerous urinals not in use only to have someone walk in and decide to use the urinal right next to me. Really? Of the seven, eight, nine, however many are not in use, you decide to pick the one right next to someone? After finishing what I went there to do then washing my hands, I have left the restroom shaking my head at what just happened.

I know not everyone can relate to the previous example. That is okay, I have another than many may relate to easier.

A few weeks back, I went to pick up our daughter from school. I left work then drove to her school. I pulled into a section of the parking lot that has I guess about thirty parking spaces. School had dismissed over an hour earlier and now the children with after-school activities or late-working parents were the ones still on hand. This was a number much less than the overall school population. As I pulled in, I noticed there were maybe twelve to fifteen cars in the parking spaces in this specific lot. This meant I had my choice of plenty of parking spaces. I located one then pulled into it. It was a thing of beauty. No cars in the two spaces to my left. No cars in the two spaces to my right. When I got out of my car to walk to the building, I noticed other empty parking spaces available. As I neared the building, I heard a truck pull into the parking lot. I looked over my shoulder to see the driver backing (don’t get me started on that either) his vehicle into the parking space to my car’s right. Mind you, plenty of spaces all over the lot, but he chose one of the spaces right next to my car. I could only shake my head.

I know things like this make others shake their heads. That is okay. Generally, these things do not ruin a day for me. Such things though do make me wonder. These things make me think what oddballs people are at times, myself included. When I step back to think on these things with enough distance and quiet, I can see how seeing differences can be something valuable even if you don’t fully agree with those differences.

Well, except for that urinal thing. I will never understand that.